Becoming a mum

I know its been a long long time. But here I am again giving my blog another go! I really enjoyed writing blogs and sharing all things makeup related. But since having my little girl, being a mum totally took over my life, and its been the best 2 years of my life so far. I’ve been wanting to get back to blogging forever and thought I would combine the two. Being a mummy and a makeup artist. Ill still be mostly writing about makeup but I will be adding some mummy makeup friendly tutorials that don’t take 2 hours and 12 products to achieve; cause we all don’t have time for that on the daily. Some makeup hacks, mummy hacks, advice and even some personal stories for other mums that have a lot more experience than me and who have dealt with things I haven’t. 

So with that said, Georgia (my little baba), has just turned two which marks my two years as a mum, so I'm kicking this off with what I have learned since becoming a mum…..

Baby brain!! This sadly never gets better it eventually becomes mummy brain and it will never leave you. Sorry, its true, best start writing things down.

The first 6 months are the hardest but it gets easier every day. 9 months of preparing to have this little person left with you to just get on with it. You don’t know what they like, what they don’t. They don’t even know themselves. As you get to know their little habits, feeding ques and routine it gets a whole lot easier.

Do not compare yourself to any other mum. How their coping and the perfect Instagram pictures that you see. No one’s up posting those major nappy explosions, you adapt and they all just get better at hiding things.

Sometimes you'll cry for no apparent reason at all, and that’s ok. At the beginning not having control on my crazy emotions used to stress me out even more and make me worse. Just go with it. It will pass. But don’t feel silly just have some tea, that always makes you feel better. Or wine if its after dinner, cheers darlings!

You will doubt every single decision you make but always always trust your gut. When Georgia was born for the first 2/3 weeks she would cry for hours on end. We were told it was colic but after persisting it turned out that as she was born 3 weeks early her stomach hadn’t fully matured yet therefore had trouble digesting the milk. After the right medication it was like night and day! Parents always know best. Trust yo'self gurl!! 

Embrace the mum bun. They tell you sleep when the baby sleeps. But I don’t know a person that ever did. You have an hour minimum to shower, eat, tidy your house and change clothes, if your lucky. Priorities and whip that hair in a mum bun because there is no way its getting brushed everyday. You may not even get the whole list finished but good luck and may the odds forever be in your favor!

Hold on to those maternity clothes. That M-word can freak so many expecting mothers out but embrace those maternity leggings. Your body sadly doesn’t always just jump right back into shape and the maternity leggings are the comfort you need. Especially if you have had a section. The H&M ones I found were the best! 

Enjoy every second. I know this is the cliché and that everyone tells you about because “they grow up so fast” but honestly maternity leave is the quickest time of your life. Enjoy every part of it.

Having a baby can be the most amazing yet loneliest times of your life. I heard this while I was pregnant and thought it was the most bizarre thing to say but now I know how very true it is. Once everyone has initially met your little bundle of joy, they all return to work, including your partner. Now don’t get me wrong I loved little days with just me and Georgia but you need adult conversation and stimulation. Staying in the house will drive you crazy. Join the baby groups. Try as many as you can, get out the house and don’t feel bad for having a little time to yourself to. 

Take the help!! Taking help from people does not make you a bad mum. You need to recharge yourself and take time to yourself. Even if it’s only an hour. Everyone always offers, just take it! 

Don’t let people tell you what to do. Everyone is different and everyone will have there opinions on whats the “right way” family, friends etc. Luckily I didn’t have this issue. People shared their experiences but never told me what to do but I have seen other people stressing so much with this. You gave birth to that baby and you are their mother. It doesn’t matter if they have 12 and this is your first. No one on this earth knows your baby and knows whats best for them better than you do. If you don’t squash it, it will never stop. You don’t have to be confrontational, “ I appreciate your opinion but I'm good”. Just smiling and nodding doesn’t always help.

Take time for you and your partner. This is the most important thing for your relationship. You can get so caught up in your new roles as 'mummy' and 'daddy' that you can forget everything else. Date nights are important. Life can easily distract you so take some time out for each other. Treat yo'self.

What was the biggest thing you learned since becoming a mum?? 

please comment and let me know what you think and share your stories! 

G x